Im out here, on my own, doing the best I can, with the very little that any family member is going to offer me. Growing up, the moment someone found out I was care-experienced, theyd make negative assumptions, says Lucy Reynolds, who had moved in and out of care eight times before being adopted aged seven. Thered be many times in the future that I would play table tennis with myself by pushing the table against the wall. Today, we are as close as she can allow herself to be. I was the eldest. His Landmark poems are visible in London, Manchester, Huddersfield and Addis Ababa. Ludford began as a cleaner at Manchester city council before working her way up, earlier this year, to lord mayor. James McMahon 'I was so proud to be the official poet of the 2012 Olympic Games': Lemn Sissay. I got racial abuse for a small amount of time, he recalls. We sweated until one of us, invariably Christopher, would burst into tears. His mother was a student at the time of his birth who had come from Ethiopia to study in Bracknell City, England. I looked at their faces to see if I had said the right thing. Lemn means 'why' in Amharic, the official language of Ethiopia, where celebrated poet Lemn Sissay's mother was from. Its really horrible.. He has authored several collections of poetry, as well as plays for both stage and public radio, and was official poet of. She was pregnant with her son Lemn, who would go on in later life to become a playwright, broadcaster, writer and speaker. This was the beginning of the end of open arms and warm hugs. ISBN-10: 1786892367 . Lemn Sissay is an award-winning writer, poet, playwright, artist and broadcaster. He holds an English nationality and belongs to Black ethnicity. $21.87 10 New from $16.75. Everyday low prices and free delivery on eligible orders. It was only recently that one of her brothers acknowledged what shed gone through and apologised for failing to confront it. The installation, Superman Is a Foundling, is another of Sissays initiatives, drawing attention to the ubiquity of the orphan in popular culture, and it momentarily shocks the poet and performer Luke Wright to find his own history reflected in a literary trope. My mother was a manic depressive, so I was in and out of care. I stumbled across hazelnuts on a recent walk on Dentdale in Cumbria for a TV documentary. Natalie Hirst, right, with a girl she met while visiting her grandmother at her caravan site. The abuse she endured, none of which came from her own family, was incomprehensible and frightening, she says. I forgave her to her face. I just have to keep mentally strong and reverse those doubts., Participation and projects lead at Pure Insight and business owner, Natalie Hirst spent eight years living in foster care in Greater Manchester and had a mixed experience, but her resilience helped her to develop the strength and skills to overcome many challenges. 19 April 1978: There is a letter on file from Normans mother, written in 1968, requesting he be returned to her in Ethiopia perhaps Norman should be made aware of this? Social workers report, on which someone has written in block capitals, NOT YET I THINK. Riddell wrote a memoir called The Cornflake Kid. These moments stuck in my memory. Its been fine., Greg Bramble counts himself lucky that he and his brother Richard, also featured, had a stable experience with a foster family in Warwickshire, but leaving his birth family aged 10 was traumatic, and negotiating their new family life was often fraught. Buy My Name Is Why By Lemn Sissay. He really put it on the map and allowed it to be something that we could be proud of as an identity and talk about as a political thing. This is a great opportunity to celebrate our achievements, says Keith Saha of the Foundling Museum project. Over the next few weeks the childrens home filled up with mainly teenagers. A poem by Lemn Sissay. Giving him up for adoption, he thinks, was a massively selfless thing to do. I had no idea Mum thought it was my fault. Healing can hurt too. Mum had always said that love was never in question. Lemn Sissay MBE (born 21 May 1967) is an English author and broadcaster. He was British and Ethiopian, and he learned that his mother had been pleading for his safe return to her since his birth. Johanan Walker enthusiastically nods. One of the greatest signs of my own sense of independence when I left care was the day I could ask for help when I needed it. I was born in the era of forcible adoption my mother was coerced into giving me up, says Louise Wallwein. I said to Norman Mills in the car: I know this is my fault and I will ask God for forgiveness. He kept his eyes on the road, but his hands gripped tighter on the wheel. I just felt I had to hide it, says Sophie Willan, creator and star of Almas Not Normal, of her experience in care she spent much of her childhood in foster care in Bolton. Then it was time for a love poem, which he believes is read at a wedding at least every two weeks and is available for free online:Invisible Kisses. I was 10 and we were off to a wedding in our new clothes. This is Lemn's story: a story of neglect and determination, misfortune and hope, cruelty and triumph. Lemn Sissay MBE is a British author and broadcaster. Ripped away from his Ethiopian mother in infancy, he endured over a decade of mistreatment and wilful cruelty in the British care system. I was shifted like I had never existed. Once her pregnancy became known, she was moved from Bracknell, Berkshire to Plodder Lane, Bolton. Yes, you did.. I took off my trousers and gave them to my brother. He is also the editor of The Fire People: A Collection of Contemporary Black British Poets (1998), and his work has appeared in many anthologies. Mr Sissay, who grew up in the care system, shared his concerns after a report, published by the. Mr and Mrs Greenwood realise there may be many problems ahead with Norman. The skies are grey. The last entry is his letter requesting to see them, at 18. He has authored collections of poetry and plays and his memoir My Name Is Why was a number one Sunday Times bestseller. As he moved into adulthood he was given his birth certificate and saw that his real name was Lemn Sissay and that his mother was called Yemarshet. Antiques Roadshow star Lennox Cato has travelled up from Kent with his immaculately behaved labradoodle, Tilly; poet and playwright Louise Wallwein has come from Manchester with her support dog, Maisie, who is so overexcited that she gets through a whole packet of placatory doggy treats. "I spend all day in bed today," he once wrote plaintively on his blog. It was amazing to be seen, says Olumide Popoola about some of the social workers who helped her through care in Germany. But the responsibility is too great for a child and so he finds himself manipulated and blamed for what he exposes by the simple virtue of innocence. When Allan Jenkins embarked on his gardening memoir Plot 29, he found himself writing about the helplessness of seed just three paragraphs in and was prompted to revisit his unsettled past, growing up in foster care in south Devon with his older brother Christopher. They wanted their children to be educated and go to university. We look at reclaiming the adoption narrative and reframing the worlds view on adoption, and also helping adult adoptees heal from their trauma.. My home situation was dire. There are many strings to the bow of Lemn Sissay OBE. And it is my fault. My mother had schizophrenia, I had a stepfather who was very violent to my mother and to me. Because its not just my story, its the story of the people that have been kind enough to reconnect with me and the people that were selfless enough to bring me up. Over the past few years I sensed I had done something wrong and yet didnt know what it was. If I told someone I was in care, their handbag would move to the other side, jokes Luis De Abreu, who made his escape through acting and is now principal of the dance and music theatre conservatoire he joined after dropping out of school at 15. 9.02M subscribers Lemn Sissay is one of the UK's most revered writers. Riordan was in respite care several times during his first four years. Lemn Sissay is a BAFTA-nominated, award-winning writer and broadcaster. Instead of celebrating success despite the odds, we urgently need to improve the odds.. His shattering, light-searching memoir, My Name Is Why, is the result. I felt incredibly cared for and looked after., When Paolo Hewitt was researching his care memoir, The Looked After Kid, in his early 40s, he went back to Burbank childrens home in Woking, where he lived from 10 to 18, and realised that it was actually a great experience, especially compared with the dismal years in foster care that preceded it. Pool was adopted from an Eritrean orphanage and lived in Sudan and Norway before coming to the UK aged six. Both places recognised her writing talent and helped her get work published. She is also a trustee of the charity Pure Insight, which supports young people to have a better care-leaving experience than she did herself. I am mightily proud of being care-experienced as its made me who I am today. Youre on your guard. One is piteous, the other heroic. Its about thriving in life and doing what makes you happy., Zarina Bhimji was taken into a childrens home at 14, then a foster family. Id never thought of myself as a different person., Principal and artistic director of Bird College, Sidcup. Today we stand proud as care leavers and remove societys stigma. Brown defied expectations by progressing to university and getting a Masters. I loved him. She is now employed by the NHS in Greater Manchester, leading a programme to create trauma responsive communities and organisations and to improve health outcomes and opportunities across the region. Raising a joyous toast to the forgotten and the forgettable, Sissay recognizes the power we give to what we pay attention to and invites us to look anew at all that has been undervalued. Jenny Bagchi spent time in foster care and unregulated settings as a teenager before experiencing an abrupt end to care at 16. They were happy, he says. Other weird things started to happen. This is the story of being stolen by the state and his 17 years in local authority care. Theres a sort of stoicism, he says, of how the experience shaped him. Even this Great Hall, he reminded the audience, had been imagined by an architect before it had been built. Lemn Sissay as a child, with his foster family He tells me what happened when he met his mother a decade ago. Later, while piecing together his origins, he discovered that his mother had pleaded for his return and been denied by social services. Why - and the search for the answer to why - became the word that defined Lemn . Its a mixture of stigma and admiration, says Martin Figura of attitudes towards people in care. The level of invisibility of the issues facing young people leaving care has not fundamentally altered in the past 20 years., Theres still a very clear judgment passed when people hear you say, I was in care, says Akiya Henry. I appreciate it.. April 1974: Im seven. Lemn was the first person I saw on stage talking about being care-experienced and it blew my mind, says comedian, actor and writer Sophie Willan, best known as the creator and star of Bafta-winning BBC Two series Almas Not Normal. Born in 1967, Sissay was the child of an Ethiopian mother who was forced to give up her son against her will; he was fostered by a white couple from Lancashire who sent him back into care aged. I looked back, but they were turning to go indoors, mindful of the neighbours. I know I was lucky, I was loved, he says. Her care experience in West Yorkshire was reasonably positive, partly because I was just happy to have a home. No brothers and sisters. Sissay was the official poet of the 2012 London Olympics, has been Chancellor of the University of Manchester since 2015, and joined the Foundling Museum's Board of Trustees two years later, having previously been appointed one of the museum's Fellows.--This text refers to the audioCD edition. I carried a lot of anger for many years and then I realised that the anger is one of the things that kills people. The foster parents, Catherine and David Greenwood, went on to have three children of their own. On the back another poem is handwritten, composed on the train into London this morning, fresh on the page. The way I see it, this should be something for people who are going through the system. His love will shine through me and them. I was always falling uphill, he says. I was lucky to have a loving upbringing, but I find Im never really happy with what Ive done, he says. Fortunately were all busy people, so we have to rush off. And suddenly theyre all gone, a fleeting crowd of one-offs, whose generosity with their time and their stories has created an indelible image. Im 12. In 1984, at 17, he was sent to Wood End Assessment Centre, a remand home in Wigan. In a sea of brilliantly coloured fabrics never has clothing seemed more important to the story we tell of ourselves TV producer and editor Janet Lee looks particularly confident in jazzy reds, hot oranges and cheeky pinks. You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey. I believed her. It was Lemn Sissay. I put it to him that it was the only home the boy had known.. Writer and national campaigner for young people in care, Chris Wild has written two books about his experiences in care, Damaged and The State of It, and has spent the past decade campaigning to improve the care system. It made me aware that families all look different and thats absolutely fine., Carl Parsons was adopted at five weeks. Often, I would. Sissay realised he'd been stolen. He loved his parents, he says, but at the time there were no black kids around. He was an introvert. None of us have ever looked into our birth parents, he says. Here is an extract from the book. Seek and ye shall find. This is what they wanted to seek. Lemn Sissay said it was "a wonderful thing to be recognised as somebody who has got my kind of past" Poet Lemn Sissay has dedicated his OBE to his younger self who he said overcame a. (He later rejoined his mother after she remarried.) It started at The Black Women's Cooperative - The Abasindi Coop - in Moss Side (1984 first paid gig) to todays event at Belfast Book Festival. Most children in care have someone they can call family. Samaritans is a 24-hour service offering emotional support for anyone struggling to cope. Lemn Sissay, My Name Is Why. And he learned that his mother had been pleading for his safe . This is an edited extract from My Name Is Why: a Memoir by Lemn Sissay, published by Canongate on 29 August at 16.99. A school report calling the boy "a ray of sunshine" is probed for racist overtones, and happily exonerated. Why would she make that comment now? When I was in the childrens homes, for years, I would play table tennis against a wall and imagine I was playing with him. All my personal belongings went in the locker by the bed. Norman Greenwood was given his birth certificate. He is in two minds about searching for his birth parents. We had the same rivalry most brothers have. During this time, no care worker knew him for beyond a year and meanwhile he had lost his parents, his siblings and other family, his friends, his first girlfriend, his town and his identity. It is not sunny, but Lemn Sissay is sheltering behind dark shades, hunched over as he inhales cigarettes to feed his near-40-year habit. An encounter with Sylvester Stallone in the Sinai desert, while working as an extra on Rambo III, prompted Mark Riddell to turn his turbulent care experience into a force for change. Now Popoola is a novelist and an associate lecturer at Central Saint Martins in London. Director of strategy and integration for Central and North West London NHS Foundation Trust, Im hopeful that attitudes towards those in care are changing, says Meera Mistry, who was in foster care in London for most of her teens. The heartache and anger of his youth alternate in his poetry with lighter, whimsical aphorisms and celebrations of place . Lemn Sissay. He advocates for children in the local authority's care and is involved in organisations concerning their welfare. The internationally acclaimed poet and playwright Lemn Sissay OBE shares the story of his life by recalling five memorable dishes. In that situation, a mother doesnt see her child, she is wrenched into the memory of the father. These experiences have shaped who I am today, an independent woman, passionate about my career and working with local authorities in Greater Manchester to ensure every young person has a voice, choice and control over decisions made about them., Psychodynamic psychotherapist and director of Integrated Minds and Artists on the Couch. This was the beginning of not being touched. Lemn Sissay, writer and Chancellor of the University of Manchester, held the Great Hall of Bolton School Girls' Division mesmerised during an emotional rollercoaster of an evening. Interspersing readings from his new collectionGold from the Stonewith moving and raw recollections of his childhood, Lemn transfixed the audience. Through my lived experience of being adopted, I co-founded a mental-health organisation called Adoptee Futures, which is led by adoptees and which centres adoptees. Now my mindset is slightly different. I had nothing to put in the locker by my bed. Lemn Sissay's traumatic childhood has informed much of the work he has created. Its not a shameful thing any more. Hoyle went into care as a young teenager and at 18 he set up a charity for care leavers called A National Voice: We campaigned to stop children in care leaving with their belongings in bin bags. Now he works for North Yorkshire county council identifying and implementing ways that we can make life better for children in care. What happens if you want to be neither? As with most brothers, Christopher and I fought like snakes on each others territory. Come what may, I may be knocked down, but I wont be down for long., Artist and founder member of the darkroom e5process, Tina Rowe first encountered racism when, aged six, she moved with her white adoptive family from a small Oxfordshire village to Malvern in Worcestershire. Raise me with sunshineBathe me in lightWash all the shadowsThat fell from the night, 11 December 1974: There are no problems with Norman. They were good people who did bad things. But success is not about being the lord mayor, she told a group of care leavers recently. "I found out about your past and then I heard you on Desert Island Discs," Lisa told Lemn . It had its pitfalls, he says, but it was unique.. Mrs Greenwood does not think of the boy as a foster child. Programme manager, Greater Manchester Trauma Responsive Programme. Sissay has spoken out about his care experience and its many traumas throughout his career as a poet and broadcaster. Like "A foster child will expose the cracks in the familial veneer. The view of care leavers is typically: unable to achieve a higher education, expected to fail in life, says Michelle Brown, who went into care at 11 and was hugely let down by her local authorities she was left on the streets aged 15 after one of her foster carers relocated. The church. He has authored collections of poetry and plays. I am, as I have ever been, interested to hear anything Catherine has to say about the eleven year old boy who she and her husband placed into care. Now hes written a lyrical memoir describing his experiences, Lemn Sissay, poet, performer and chancellor at the University of Manchester, was born in Billings Hospital near St Margarets House for pregnant unmarried girls and women in Wigan, Greater Manchester, to an Ethiopian student on 21 May 1967. Pete Turner was adopted at five months and grew up in Bury in a very liberal family that loved me, he says. Someone gave me a fish-finger sandwich and I was like, Ive made it. Leaving care was harder: The social housing that I got put into was not the best there were needles all over the floor and blood on the wall and the support wasnt always the greatest. Support for care leavers has since improved, Mahmood says, thanks to new policies from her local authority in Kirklees. I studied the question for a day and a night, I prayed to God, and I read the Bible to see if a passage would answer the question. All images courtesy of contributors, Council where Logan Mwangi was murdered worryingly dependent on agency care, Councils in England and Wales pay 1m a year to house child in private care home, Private childrens home bosses in England criticised over huge profits, Council paid 60k a week for wholly unsuitable place for vulnerable girl, Almost a third of disabled children and teenagers face abuse, global study finds, UKhas sleepwalked into dysfunctional childrens social care market, says regulator, Revealed: money for educating excluded children funded Bolton bar owners social life, Bolton childrens home shut down for serious and widespread failures, Access to NHS mental health for children remains a postcode lottery, Childrens social care system unfit for purpose in England, Key to the photo of people whove spent time in care, with a list of their names, the notorious Shirley Oaks childrens home. We can go on to do better if were just given the same life chances as other people. They refused. He received his MBE in 2010. Spectacularly ordinary, is how poet Paul Cookson describes his very happy childhood in Lancashire alongside three other siblings, all of them adopted. Thank you. I always thought it was something I had to hide. Born in Wigan to an Ethiopian mother, Lemn Sissay was placed in foster care as a baby, and sent aged 12 to the first of a series of childrens homes. He wrote about the experience in his 2010 poetry collection Whistle, which was shortlisted for a Ted Hughes award and which Figura later turned into an Edinburgh show. They were just friends, says Cato, now an expert on Antiques Roadshow. We usually get the narrative told about us so its nice to tell it ourselves, she says. The exhibition Superheroes, Orphans & Origins: 125 Years in Comics runs there until 28 August, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning, Top to bottom, left to right: Clare Gorham, Keith Saha, Michelle Brown, Kriss Akabusi, Jim Goddard, Allan Jenkins (on the right), Stanley J Browne, Siroun Button, Martin Figura, Mark Riddell, Paolo Hewitt, Lucy Sheen, Lemn Sissay, Olumide Popoola, Paul Cookson, Lennox Cato (on the right), Sylvan Baker, Axa Hynes, Barrie Sharpe. His is an extraordinary story of family, and identity, lost and . Lemn Sissay: 'My foster parents were good people who did bad things' Interview by Donna Ferguson The poet talks about how his foster parents put him into care at the age of 12 and left him there,. Cato was born on the Caribbean island of Grenada and adopted as a baby by white parents in Brighton, along with his brother. She left you She didnt want you If I find her, I will scratch her eyes out How could she My mums love was elevated by how much she hated my birth mother for leaving me. I wanted to tackle the sometimes subconscious, but overall still damaging stereotypes often perpetuated in the media, such as care-experienced people not achieving or succeeding in life due to their background. I am not defined by my scars but by the incredible ability to heal. 248 ratings29 reviews. If youd asked me as a child, Id be like, Oh, Im adopted but its not a thing. Now he acknowledges that there is probably some degree of separation anxiety as a result of not being with my mother in those crucial first few weeks. Visiting my mum in hospital, Id see people screaming in straitjackets. The upside of his experience, he says, was that he had no fear from a very young age, and he connects this to his career successes DJing at Londons Wag Club in the 1980s, starting the clothing label Duffer of St George. Buy a copy for 11.99 at guardianbookshop.com, Lemn Sissay will be at Southbank Centre on 18 October as part of the London Literature Festival, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning. Rosie Canning, aged four, as a bridesmaid to her foster mothers son, 1962. Just before leaving the house, Mum looked at me. Johanan Walker, aged 13, with her one-year-old daughter, during their time in care in Hackney. Wallwein later dramatised her search for her birth mother in the acclaimed one-woman show (later a book) Glue. His zodiac sign is Gemini. Author, broadcaster, chancellor of the University of Manchester. 0 likes. So it didnt just have to be: this is your problem. Because her care experience happened so early she was in and out of a foster home in east London until the age of five Siroun Button never really thought of herself as somebody whod been in care. Lemn Sissay OBE FRSL (born 21 May 1967) [1] is a British author and broadcaster. This photograph alone proves that with the right support and opportunities, those stereotypes are false.. She is now a psychodynamic psychotherapist and the director of two companies. Thats the number of times he was relocated between 11, when he and his brother were abandoned by their mother, and 17, when he decided he had to pull himself together. His Landmark poems are visible in London, Manchester, Huddersfield and. I was causing problems for everyone. And it gave me comfort to see your views on forgiveness and forgetting, for whilst I can see the psychological argument in favour of forgiveness, I stand with the words of a Holocaust survivor, 'There is no such thing as closure; it is a word invented by people who . I loved the sibling rivalry. I know from reading the very brief information I have on my birth parents that my natural mother wanted me to have a better life than she could give me, he says. Ive forgiven my foster mother. I was a deceitful one. Marcus Clarke with his new carer on the day he entered NCH Sheringham. In the process of tracking down his birth parents, which is ongoing, Chris Fretwell learned that he was given up for adoption to cover up a family scandal: his parents were first cousins. I was a questioner. Ive had experiences with homelessness, she says, and its something that disproportionately affects people who are leaving foster care. Nature holds memory. The project is the brainchild of poet and activist Lemn Sissay, himself a graduate of the system, who wanted to create an image of successful lives as an inspiration for the many thousands of children struggling in care today. Lemn Sissay was born on 21 May 1967 in Billinge Hospital, near Wigan, Lancashire Higher End, England, UK. Mum and Dad must have told everyone in my family to stay away from me. And this is what I found. Its difficult to build a relationship with a mother. The experience was marked by contradictions relating to her race and religion: I remember I had chickenpox and I couldnt go to the mosque, but we were allowed to go and see the Queen as she was visiting the town. Encouragement from teachers spurred her on to become an artist (she was nominated for the Turner prize in 2007). Not even a Bible. The lecture was the latest in a series of Arts and Science presentations which are taking place at the School in the evenings and are open to the general public. All I knew was that my birth mother, the woman who had my face and my blood, was from Africa and Africa was where poor people were. I was in care. He didnt disclose his own experience to anyone at university until he co-founded a participatory research project called The Verbatim Formula in 2015. He has authored collections of poetry and plays. There are times, friends say, when he disappears altogether, depression paralysing him for months; times when he folds himself into himself. See more information Now my foster mother sends me birthday cards. It's a bolt from the blue. In and out of care from the age of five, Stanley J Browne says his horror story began aged eight, when he was separated from his siblings and fostered off to Nottingham. Since then his poems have become landmarks, sculpted in granite and built from concrete, recorded on era-defining albums and declaimed in over twenty countries. Tomorrow came and I said it with pride because I thought I had found the answer they wanted me to find: I mustnt love you, I said. The result is an. At the age of seventeen, after a childhood in a foster family followed by six years in care homes, Norman Greenwood was given his birth certificate. I remember the smell of wet heather, bracken and fern. Of course I loved them. As much as you read this book and are in shock (or not) at how this young black child was dragged through a problematic system and feel angry at the injustices he has faced, you can't . We need to prioritise the voices of people with lived experience of care, she says. Mum and Dad said I was like Macavity. Sometimes, if youve had my childhood, you try not to be defined by it, he says. Lemn Sissay's poem "Some Things I Like" celebrates what we might consider discardable like cold tea, ash trays, and even people. Music producer/writer; founder of clothing labels Duffer of St George and Sharpeye; author; one of the two creators of the rare groove scene; photographer; activist. 3 January 1980: My mum wouldnt hug me as I left, so I hugged her. What kept us stable is that we knew we had two mums and dads.. I slowly realised I was being set up. It was a difficult situation, he says. Now hes a national adviser for England, advising the government and local authorities how to have a better leaving care offer to the more than 80,000 kids that weve got in care. In 2015 then I realised that the anger is one of the Foundling Museum project to the bow of Sissay! 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